Top 8 Secrets of Confident Kids

Looking from outside it seems that confidence comes from the child’s personality, but if we become more analytic, we can observe that not all the time the kid potential is met and this is the result of education.

There are cases in which the parents are very active and extroverts and the child is shy and introvert. If we are looking more closely we can observe that the child is treated ironical or maybe not encouraged enough, or his inhibition come particularly from their parents’ success and excessive exposure.

What about the confident kids?

The confident kids are raised by very present and emphatic parents.

We have few good tips to help you boost your kid confidence, maybe they will help you to observe better the kid psychological needs.  

 

1. Encourage with honest compliments

Of course, young kids need plenty of encouragement, whether they're learning to crawl, throw a ball, or draw a circle. But your child can get so accustomed to hearing "Good job!" that he may have a hard time realizing when his accomplishments are really worth celebrating. He'll also sense when you're exaggerating ("That's the best block tower I have ever seen!") and may start ignoring your compliments. Don't praise your child if he does something that he's supposed to do. When he brushes his teeth or throws his shirt into the hamper, for example, a simple "thank you" is sufficient. Try to offer specific feedback: Instead of saying that your child's drawing is gorgeous, you might point out his nice use of purple.

 

2. Don’t get upset about mistakes.

Help kids see that everyone makes mistakes and the important thing is to learn from them, not dwell on them. Confident people don’t let fear of failure get in their way—not because they’re sure they won’t ever fail, but because they know how to take setbacks in stride.

 

3. Praise perseverance

 Learning not to give up at the first frustration or bail after one setback is an important life skill. Confidence and self-esteem are not about succeeding at everything all the time, they’re about being resilient enough to keep trying, and not being distressed if you’re not the best.

 

4. Help kids find their passion

 Exploring their own interests can help kids develop a sense of identity, which is essential to building confidence. Of course, seeing their talents grow will also give a huge boost to their self-esteem. Try to expose your child to a wide variety of activities, and encourage him when he finds something he really loves. Kids who have a passion - whether it's paint or cooking -  feel proud of their expertise and are more likely to be successful in other areas of their life.

 

5. Let the child make decisions

When your child gets the chance to make choices from a young age, he'll gain confidence in his own good judgment. Of course, kids love to run the show, but having too much control can be overwhelming, it's best to give your child two or three options to choose from. At the same time, let your child know certain choices are up to you.

 

6. Spending time with your friends

Kids like to hang out with their friends, but it's also important for them to be around a variety of grown-ups. Spending time with older people expands your child's world, forces her to talk to adults besides you, and gives her different ways of thinking. Research has also shown that having a close relationship with a particular grown-up - a teacher, an uncle, a babysitter, or a friend's parent - makes children more resilient.

 

7. Give your child your undivided attention

Avoid communicating while your eyes are glued to the TV, text messages, or with grunts from behind the computer screen. Receiving your undivided attention will help your child build trust as well as self-confidence.

 

8. Allow your child to solve his/her own problems

As hard as it is for us to watch our children struggle, it’s important that we do not immediately jump in and rescue our child when he’s faced with a challenge. Kids are smarter and more creative than we give them credit for. Yes, offer advice, but honor them if they choose to try their own way. Let them know you have confidence in them figuring things out. This will encourage them to problem solve and build stress coping skills.

 


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