Authoritarian parenting is a parenting style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness.
If we don’t encourage our children to act independently, they will have difficulties in learning their own limits develop their confidence in their strength. As adults, they would tend to be dependent of an authority figure from the need of approval and monitoring.
- Authoritarian parents expect quite a big amount of obedience
- Children raised in such settings are typically very good at following rules. However, they may lack self-discipline. Unlike children raised by authoritative parents.
- While developmental experts agree that rules and boundaries are important for children to have, most believe that authoritarian parenting should offer more freedom to their kids and trust more the warmth and love instead of fixed rules.
- Your child is equal in importance with any other adult family member and he should be treated like one. He should express his feelings and should be taken seriously.
- Listen to him and acknowledge his desires.
- Negotiate all the rules in terms of the happiness of you both.
- Compromise when you realize he is right and acknowledge when you made a mistake, because nobody is perfect.
- Don’t mistake your desires with his. He is a different and wonderful individual and you must raise to give him wings to fly.
- Encourage him even when he is not at his best. Don’t forget, you are the most important person in his life and the only one who will love him unconditionally for the rest of his life. Show him this, and it should be enough.